Aight, lets get to it. Women wanting to party when they have kids at home to take care of. Touchy subject? To some it is, but only because they know they are dead wrong in doing so because of how they are doing it. There is nothing wrong with a little partying every now and then, but when you are going out every weekend and coming home wreaking of Hennessey or G Double (Grey Goose), then there is a problem. Your children could be getting neglected. Now notice I said, "could be", not that they were. It depends on the circumstances and how much time you are spending with your kids. Now if you are spending time with them during the day by taking them to the park, zoo, Chuck E. Cheese ,or whatever and then going out to the club at night time, well that's fine. But if all you are doing is letting them sit in front of the TV all day and then you drop them off at your mommas house Saturday night and then don't come and pick them up until Sunday afternoon, then that's a problem.
I get that most of these women didn't get to experience all of the fun of hanging out with friends because they may have had their children at a young age, but that's where the growing up should have come into play. You can't go back and get those years back. Once you become a parent no matter what age, you're stuck. I know there are people saying, "well what about the fathers? Shouldn't they be responsible too?" Let's face the facts...you can't make a man take responsibility for his actions. If they did, there wouldn't be any dead beats in the world. Real men take care of their children, boy's don't. So you can ask why the baby daddy's aren't getting involved and letting their baby mommas have a break, well its because they're right up in the club with them buying the drinks.
Another issue with a lot of women who engage in this type of activity is their priorities tend to get mixed up. Meaning that the "wants" seem to outweigh the "needs". Daycare "needs" to get paid, but they "want" to buy a new outfit for the club. Or they "want" a pair of new shoes, but the light bill "needs" to get paid. Then people wonder why these children grow up with no sense of responsibility. Its because they grew up in a house hold were looking good and material things were more important than showing love and taking care of business.
Also, please stop teaching your kids how to "walk it out" and put a book in front of them.
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I have seen this first hand. Someone close to me had children young and has had a hard road w/ their father being in and out of their lives. All of a sudden she wants to go out instead of spending that extra time w/ the kids. She is getting very short tempered w/ the kids also instead of enjoying the time she has w/ them. Kids just want to be loved, they don't care about material things...that is taught to them as he said. I understand struggling w/ bills and wanting to just relax and have some "me" time, but if your struggling...why are you buying new outfits for the club? I hear women saying, "You don't have kids, you don't understand". I do understand, I understand that I didn't have kids young because I chose to wait. That was my decision. Our lives are shaped based on the decisions that we make. We have to make the best of them. Kids should be cherished.
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